Recently I was observing how I ended up doing things I had been neglecting before due to being in a bad state. My very toxic mother wasn't living here anymore, and that put me into a better state, reducing my stress level.
It seems thoughts can be divided into two types: inner monologue and thoughts which seem to arise spontaneously. The new improved motivation came from thoughts about what I could do now arising spontaneously and me attaching to those thoughts, deciding it's a good idea to do that now.
In a worse state there is more inner monologue, which reduces more spontaneous thoughts. Also, anxious "no" feelings overpower weak seeming "yes" feelings. In the better state a quieter mind allows more thoughts to arise and the "yes" / "no" balance is improved.
When in a worse state I've often tried to find motivation via thinking about how I "should" get something done. But that seems to be the wrong way to find positive "yes" motivation. "Should" is an anxious mindset (maybe sense of obligation), which matches the overall anxious mindset of a bad state. But searching in that direction via inner monologue practically never finds the positive motivational "yes" mindset which is easier to access in a good state. It just ends up being pointless self-torture. The only anxious motivation is when the fears of consequences of not doing something are greater than the fears of doing it, and that's a very shitty way to be.
These observations still do not provide a simple direct path from a bad state to positive motivation. But they do show that decreasing stress and anxiety overall can help a lot with positive motivation.
Submitted September 28, 2018 at 05:28AM by is_reddit_useful https://ift.tt/2R7PEOs
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